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Divorce Mediation, an Ameliorate Regime for Settlement after Divorce!

on March 30, 2013

Marriage is perhaps one of the most awaited and happy event of everyone`s life. One has many dreams and perhaps one of them is marriage. Actually the ideal life after marriage is something everyone dreams for, but it is one of the harshest realities of this modernized world that about 40% of the marriages end in divorce. Divorce is something which can never be termed as cheerful by any of the spouse; it is really hard and bitter for both of them to see the tree of their dreams uprooted by a light wind. The things get more bitter when the matters after divorce don`t settle; like child custody, property issues, child support, division of debt and spousal support etc. To escape from these issues, both the formal spouses go for divorce mediation.

Divorce mediation is simple. It is when both the spouses seek a neutral negotiator to solve the issues as stated above, and work for the benefit of both the parties, the proceedings are termed as divorce mediation, and the neutral negotiator is known as mediator. Before coming to the perks of divorce meditation, it is important to discuss the mediator first. Because mediation without a sensible mediator; simply a bigger fuss. The mediator whoever may be, must have common sense necessarily. It is not important that he should be a lawyer or someone who know law, but he necessarily should be sensible enough to analyze the situation wisely, and give correct decisions. A few different types of mediators are there, but the most preferred one are family mediators. It is because that they don`t only know both the families well than other outsiders, but also don`t do it for money. Of course, their sincerity is also much more than the outsiders. Now, we will discuss some benefits of Divorce Mediation.

The biggest advantage of divorce mediation over being counseled from a third party is that your private problems remain private. The conversion from private to public category does not take place. Secondly, divorce mediation is very cost effective also. You have to pay huge amount of timely fees to the lawyer, but not to the mediator. This is one of the key reasons that it is getting more common than going to the court. Moreover, opting for a mediator is better because you can solve your issues much quicker this way, rather than going to the court. Also, going for the legal system and its decisions, it may happen that both the parties agree to certain point, but following the legal system they can`t practice it. So, the decisions of divorce mediation are much more flexible, and practicable. Of course, when the mediator is a neutral person who knows both of the families, he will be more sincere with his decisions that can benefit both the families. Talking to both of the former spouses face to face, he will be having a better understanding of the emotions and problems of them.

It is also quite understandable that a decision that you carve out yourself is more to be followed than a decision that is imposed upon you by the court. In case you have children, the divorce mediation is really handy; in fact if you have children, you should try to avoid court. Divorce mediation will not only reduce the adverse affect of divorce on children, but also allows the parents to at least give their child freedom of choosing one of them or both (time division). You both will have the problems of each other clear in your minds, and after the complete break up, you won`t have any sour or festering feelings for each other left in your hearts.

These all reasons have played their part in the success of divorce mediation. According to NFM, 68% of the clients have reached a solution while discussing the child issues. And while the discussion of all issues (child, wealth and property etc), 80% of them were found resolved. Couples were find to be fighting really bitterly and even did not get their issues settled even after going to the Supreme Court. But, few sessions with the mediator had their issues settled. Though there are a few problems in divorce mediation also, like meeting your ex is really traumatic emotionally, it is minor when compared with its perks. Wish you all best of luck!


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